Top 10 Deal breakers for Men

by Gary (aka just call me Gary)

1). Lying

Trust me you don’t want to do this. If a guy is looking for a serious girlfriend and two months down the line he discovers she’s been married before it is not going to go down well.

A few white lies like “Oh wow, you look like you work out” is great but major lies flag up all sorts of questions and no dude wants to get with a girl he considers untrustworthy.


2). Insecurity

Insecurity is one of the biggest turn-offs for us guys. If you are constantly asking us whether you look fat and are trying to use us as your emotional crutch it is no fun and we’ll be out that door.

Sure, everyone goes through a few moments of doubt and that’s ok but if a partner suffers from a myriad of self esteem issues then it is utterly exhausting.


3). Criticizing us in front of others

This is inexcusable as we feel we are being belittled by someone who should be by our side, supporting us. If you take issue with something your man has done then address it privately. To question him in public is seen as the ultimate betrayal.


4). Cheating

This point is self explanatory. To cheat on us is to question the very core of our masculinity. Good luck finding a guy who will give his cheating girlfriend a second chance.


5). Neediness

Self sufficiency is “in.” Most men want an independent woman who has her own life and someone who will stimulate him not only physically but mentally. We want a partner to share our life with, not someone who we have to constantly tend to.


6). Gold diggers

Just like women who don’t want to be chased only on the basis of their looks we don’t want to be liked just because we’ll foot the bill. We work hard for our money and do not want appreciate being fleeced.

We are happy to pay for dates but please offer to pay and make sure that you pick up the tab occasionally and if we have just started dating demand that we buy you a watch from Tiffany’s – buy it yourself.


7). Attempting to change us

We are not a project. We may not be as vocal about it as the females of the species but we too want to be loved for ourselves. Sure, you can nag us to wash the dishes but to constantly pick on a guy who likes to stay at home in order for him to go clubbing with you every Saturday night is not on.


8). Talking too much

We do like to listen but just not all the time. Let us get a word in edgewise; we are known to be rather intelligent too.


9). Flightyness

When we enter into a relationship with a girl we really like we don’t appreciate being messed around. If we make plans don’t cancel at the last minute, don’t play mind games. When you are being approached with sincerity please return the favour.


10). Bitterness

You may have been hurt before but no man represents the entirety of the male species so if you’ve had a bad experience with an ex we would appreciate it if you didn’t take it out on us.

Of course, you will have our shoulder and we’ll be more than happy to soothe you but don’t punish us for something we didn’t do.


Contributor Blurb: Gary (just call me Gary) has been dating solidly from the age of fourteen when he first snogged Kimberly in the school supply closet. He's gorgeous and sadly not single. Boasting a vast experience with the opposite sex Gary's here to "tell it like it is."

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